Misery loves company
I’ve been thinking about happiness and misery lately.
Miserable people love it when bad things happen to other people, but get upset when good things happen to other people.
But happy people? They feel the opposite.
They love it when good things happen to other people, and get upset when bad things happen to other people.
People can be miserable for many reasons. People can be happy for many reasons, too. I think the main difference lies in where we direct our gaze. Do we direct our energy solely on ourselves and what we lack, collapsing into our own negativity like a black hole and crushing any light that dares to come near?
What are we without ambition? If we have nothing to work for, what is there to stop us from collapsing into misery and wallowing in self pity? Self pity is an indulgence, after all. It feels good to feel bad for ourselves. And when we can’t enjoy success, why not wallow?
Stars collapse into black holes when nuclear fusion stops. Think of our ambition, our drive, like nuclear fusion.
So what happens when we maintain that nuclear fusion? If that ambition continues as our driving force throughout life, if we focus our energy outwards, we’ll be able to light up whole other worlds.
What I mean to say is that when I’m feeling miserable, the best thing for me to do is to get out of my own head. To find some project to work on that will benefit my community, or even just to hear the sound of a baby’s laughter, is all that it takes to remember that there’s a whole world out there that needs someone working to make it better.
And isn’t that something to feel good about?
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