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in charge

I know just what I’ll wear
The next time we go out
Though I don’t know just when
That will be
And I know what I’ll say
I’ve got the words all picked out
But I don’t know what you’ll say
To me.

They’re already decided
Words, clothes, accessories
I can’t say I’m not excited
To be put together so prettily.

Pointed boots to match my words
Silver jewelry to match my tongue
A leather purse, like thick skin
Protecting what’s inside.
Is it valuable?
Maybe not to you

But it is to me.

I used to think that giving up and giving in was the best way to handle feeling out of control in life. Maybe that was an unhealthy coping mechanism. Maybe I was a little lazy. It doesn’t matter.

What do I do when I feel like life is out of my control? When I don’t have a job in the field that I want? How about living through a pandemic, what’s the best way to handle that? Or not knowing what to go to school for, that certainly makes me feel out of control, so how can I handle that? That’s what matters.

I’ve found that the best thing to do when life feels out of control is to focus on the things that I can control!

First and foremost, I’m in control of how I react to situations. Even when I’m feeling down, it’s important to take control in life in 4 main ways; through diet, exercise, hobbies, and appearance.

Oftentimes, I find myself reacting to situations with food. If I’m feeling down, I might reach for junk food, which only makes me feel worse.

I firmly believe that happiness starts in the gut. How can you feel well if you’re not eating well? I might not be in control of whether or not I’ll be accepted to grad school(whenever I start applying), but I am in control of what I eat. It feels good to choose healthy options!

After that comes exercise. Sure, I might feel bummed that I don’t have the job that I want, but I always feel better after a good workout. At least I can feel good about that!

Then there’s hobbies! To just go to work, go exercise, and go home is no way to live life. I can’t control whether or not I’ll get accepted into grad school, but I can control how much time I spend doing the things that I love, like painting, playing ukulele, or posting to Freshly Stale!

And lastly, theres fashion! People can and will always judge others based on how they look. I can’t control that. But how I present myself? How I express myself? That’s all me, baby!

What do you do when life feels out of control? Let me know in the comments below! Don’t forget to like and subscribe for more Freshly Stale content! 💕

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